One reason I still lurk or paticipate in several internet forums is to discover the ridiculous situations that some naive pubescent juveniles get themselves into. Naive doesn’t even begin to describe it.

Here’s one . . .

Guy named Steve invites a girl named Ayee to a motel for some drinks. Ayee has some boyfriend issues and Steve wants to offer some advice. “I can be trusted,” he says. “We’ll just drink and talk.” Ayee agrees. Whether she hesitatingly agrees or she wholeheartedly believes him is unclear. So they buy cheap liquor, some Coke as chasers, and junk food. They proceed to a motel. This is at 3 pm. Inside, they drink. They exchange shots straight-up. Steve, probably with alcohol coursing through his veins and with the atmosphere of being alone with a girl in a room with a bed, makes a move. He starts with an innocent kiss. There is no mention on whether she reciprocates but no resistance was offered. Alcohol has taken its course (so she says) and she lies down. He begins to unbutton her blouse. She still offers no resistance so he does the deed on her. They do it all over the room. “Inikot ako sa buong kwarto while fina-fuck nya ako,” she describes it.

Then an intermission She goes to the toilet, urinates, then proceeds to have a heated discussion with her boyfriend. Steve consoles her again. They go back to bed, where they start drinking again. She takes a nap, and she later wakes up to find Steve nuzzling between her legs, licking her. Again, no resistance (she claims she was dizzy). And they proceed with the deed for two more rounds.

They eventually checkout where Steve drops Ayee at SM Megamall, just a few kilometers away from the motel, where she will meet up with another friend. It was 9 pm. All in all, the whole episode lasted for 6 hours.

Now she posts the entire episode on the forum, complete with a grievance that she did not come, that her vagina had been scuffed due to lack of lubrication, and that Steve had taken advantage of her. As a result, Steve is riddled with ridicule, condescension, and ostracism.

People are tagging Steve as “ungentlemanly.” And that he should have acted with the “highest code of conduct.” Phrases like “betrayal of trust” are tossed. Which I find totally ridiculous. And this coming from an adult-oriented forum that brandishes PSPs and that holds a contest for the “horniest sex maniac.”

Some have even gone as far as claiming rape, blaming Steve for getting her so drunk that she was in no position to give consent. Whenever I read that story (which was coming for her point of view, not Steve’s), I find it hard to believe that she was smashed beyond all comprehension. She was still able to make a phone call, she was still able to get home on her two feet, she was still able to remember some details. I, on the other hand, have gotten so smashed that I could barely walk, read street signs, or have a decent conversation without a slur. Besides, she could have refused imbibing alcohol.

Okay, maybe there is such a thing as a gentleman sex maniac. And, for me, the gentleman way is to take each step to sex one step at a time. For me, it is definitely uncouth to go up to a gal and declare with full honesty that he would like to take her to a motel and fuck her. It may work, but I have had more success with the subtler approach. Which is to invite her to a motel, promise nothing, start with drinks to loosen up, maybe allow for some light physical contact, maybe give her a peck on the cheek, and then eventually graduating to a peck on lips, and then moving on to an open-mouth kiss with a slight bit of sucking and a tease of the tongue. If one step fails, I don’t pursue. If the girl responds positively, then we move forward.

After all, men, even gentlemen, can also change our minds. I have always believed that “no” means “no.” And even if the girl is butt naked, on bed, under the sheets, with a guy on top who has yet to insert his manhood into her, she can still say “no” and the guy has to back off. I have always given the girl that leeway. So why can’t we also have that option to change our minds? I don’t mean that we should go ahead and force ourselves. If we promise that we will be good boys, and we make an attempt, and the girl refuses, then the girl can chastise us, slap us, walk out of on us, and broadcast to the world that we are scum and untrustworthy.

But if the girl reciprocates, then that is construed as a go-signal to take it up to the next level. I, for one, see nothing wrong with that.

December is coming and with it comes the much-awaited 13th-month pay!

I know a lot of men are just itching for that extra cash, and I know of some who are planning to indulge themselves with an expensive escort.

Before you do that, though, here is some financial advice: Settle all your other obligations before you yield to your vices. This means paying off your high-interest debts (including those astronomical credit card debts or personal loans), putting aside money for your family’s needs (like education), or adding up to your savings for your retirement, a new car, or a new house. There are many things to invest in before one splurges on paid companionship. If you are living in an apartment or you are commuting to work, you can put the money aside for a down payment.

I am already in the point of my life where many of my obligations are taken care of. But there are still a number of times that, after spending five-figures on a photo-shoot model, I felt a tinge of regret because I could have spent that money on something a bit more long-term. Or at least something that would last more than 3 hours. For example, I could have bought a new cell phone, or a new laptop, or a new stereo system for my car.

But, there is one other aspect that probably outweighs many of my materialistic wants. And it is the fact that we only live once. Some experiences would never repeat; some opportunities may never crop up again. I had once admitted to a handler that there are two celebrities that I wouldn’t mind spending the big bucks with. They were available once upon a time, and now they are not. I doubt if they will ever enter the trade again because they are both married with men far wealthier and far more good-looking than me.

And there are a couple of high-end escorts that have given me the best times of my life with experiences that, up to this very minute, still linger on in my memory.

In short, before you spend the big bucks on an escort, consider what you are also giving up. And if you do decide to spend the big bucks, milk the experience for whatever it’s worth and don’t look back with remorse.