In describing the type of experience one expects from a “personal service provier (PSP),” I often come upon the acronyms GFE (Girlfriend experience) and PSE (Porn star experience). I wonder: What exactly does this mean? What does it connote? Why make the distinction? For example, standard fare for a porn star is to give fellatio; thus, girlfriends are not expected to give blowjobs?

And do those that claim PSE actually perform like a porn star? I know that porn stars perform a wide range of services–fisting and anal, for example–does that mean that PSPs who make such a claim will actually do these? Ok, maybe anal and fisting are a bit extreme (some however, may disagree, but please allow me that leeway), but what about facials and come-in-mouth?

Okay, in reality, I have (or, at least I think I had) experienced a PSE. I don’t think it has to do with the range of services; it’s in the way the PSP performs even the most basic sexual act. A GFE will be a more sweet, demure, conversational episode. A PSE will be more wanton and beastly.

Take the simple and trite missionary position: a PSP claiming GFE will probably give you sugary encouragement as you are mounting her. It is like enjoying fine wine with soft jazz piping through the speakers. A PSP with the PSE on her curriculum vitae will probably groan out all sorts of profanities, will stare at you with fiery hot passion, will purse her lips and bite her lips, and will show you a “come-and-fuck-me” expression on her face, akin to gulping down hard liquor with acid rock blaring.

One reader commented that I must be an ugly man because I can’t charm a woman. Another tried to lend his pseudo-intellectualism by saying that I must be a jerk because I pay P5,000 for something I can get for free. Be that as it may, it still underscores the fact that I need sex without having to go through the effort of seducing a woman. The reality is I go to PSPs for the simple reason that I need to get laid with as little complications as possible.

I wonder what is the financial comparison between charming a woman and paying a PSP to have sex with you. Charming a woman involves at least a drink plus several hours of conversation. Well, at least for me it will take several hours; I haven’t met anyone who can get a girl to go to bed with him in 30 minutes or less. My success in one-try pickups is dismally low, which means I have to call or SMS the girl a number of times. When I look back at my attempts, the sex typically happens after the third “date,” with each “date” consisting of a minimum of three bottles of beer between the both of us, sometimes six bottles of beer, plus the usual pica-pica. Then, when I am successful, it usually happens in the wee hours of the morning, like 2 am or 3 am, and I worry if I won’t be able to bring her to her doorstep, which means that there is the drive to her house. I stay in the Makati area and the worst situation that I had encountered was that I had to bring home a girl all the way to Bulacan.

Then there is the emotional baggage. Some women do get enamored and they begin calling you. Sometimes they call in most inopportune times. Somehow, the experience of swapping bodily fluids seem to make some women believe that they are beholden to you. Or that you are now beholden to them.

One reader gave one of the, if not the best reason on why I go to PSPs. I spend money not to be with them, but to make sure they leave after the deed is done.

I went to KTV and engaged the services of a GRO named Jam. She was bubbly, lively, talkative, and…well…too much of bragger. She kept on reminding me that she has been all over to Asia—Hongkong, Japan, Singapore, to name a few. Big deal, I said to myself. So have I.

Actually, there was another GRO that had caught my eye in the showroom. Her name was Winona but the GRM mentioned that Jam was better because Winona had only joined a few weeks ago and was still relatively shy and reserved. I wanted someone who would pamper me, paw all over me, and smother me with attention. Plus, of course, she had to be “game.”

And yes, Jam was “game.” But she was hardly the pampering type. The GRM probably advised her of my intentions, because 15 minutes after she sat down, she asked the question, point-blank: “So do you want to have sex?”

And that was a turn-off.

She reasoned that it was best to put things out in the open to make sure that there is no misunderstanding. And this I found strange because once a girl starts kissing me, touching me, sitting on my lap, and grinding her hips on my groin, and once my dick gets rock-hard, there is no mistaking my intentions.

“How much did Marie (the GRM) mention?” she asked.

I shrugged. “How much do you want?” I figured that she may quote a lesser amount. And if she quoted a higher amount, then I can tell her the amount that Marie quoted.

She held her palm up and spread her five fingers:P5,000. Which was the amount that Marie quoted.

But I refused. The cold, business-like approach did not sit well with me. I came to be pampered. I did not go there to engage in a formal business discussion. I finished my bottle of San Mig Light and promptly asked for the bill. I left her no tip. And I did not leave Marie any tip either. Read the rest of this entry »

A reader had commented on a post, basically saying that PSPs and the patronage of sites are immoral acts and are further contributing to the deterioration of society.

To which my response is: Who assigned YOU to be the moral police?

I asked a few people what acts to they consider as fundamentally immoral. They mentioned murder, rape, adultery, child abuse. I further inquired why such acts were immoral. They answered that these acts are immoral because they clearly infringe on the rights of others. In other words, there is clearly a victim in such acts.

But what about prostitution? Who is the victim in prostitution?

Is it the client? I don’t think so. He paid for a service and he received a service.

Is it the PSP? I also don’t think so. Unless coerced in the world of flesh trade, she has willingly and voluntarily chosen that way of life.

I know some moral pundits will say that the PSP is the victim because she had no choice and that poverty had forced her into that life. In that case, shouldn’t it be poverty then that should be considered immoral?

There is the stereo-typical PSP, the one that was scammed into the seedy world of prostitution, brought to the metropolitan with promises of wealth and comfort, only to discover that the bed she will lie on is not one of roses. We see this stereo-typical PSP in movies, books, TV shows, and sensationalistic news articles.

I, on the other hand, have experienced the PSPs of massage parlors, KTVs, and escorts. The great majority of them have consciously chosen that way of life. Yes, they are not proud of it. Yes, it’s a hard path to take. But it doesn’t make it immoral.

So I want to know: If one person finds prostitution immoral, what exactly makes it immoral? Please tell me who is being affected, whose rights are being violated, who is being hurt or who is being deceived.

In many forums that I have visited, one question or topic always pops up. It is on falling in love with a “personal service provider.”

I don’t really blame people for falling for a PSP. It’s not that difficult or far-fetched, especially when the PSP is good in listening, pampering, serving, and—of course—screwing.

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I have seen many news articles wherein adult establishments are raided and the “personal service providers” in such establishments are “rescued.” Of course we all know that prostitution is against the law, but must the forces of authority play the role of a chivalrous knight?

Yesterday I came across a news article which reported about a sex den that was raided and a 17-year old girl named Rhea was “rescued.” I admit that the girl really needed salvation. She is a minor. She was apparently trading sex for drugs. And the authorities placed her under the care of the Department of Social Welfare and Development, where she will undergo counseling and drug rehabilitation. It is an action that I do applaud. The message of Chief Insp. Valentino Lopez, chief of the Complaint and Reaction Unit of the Office of the PDEA Director General, is quite clear:

If we can save someone like Rhea, we are sending a message that we are determined to save more minors like her.

But what about the raids on massage parlors or KTVs, where the girls—who are of age—willingly and consciously enter the trade?

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After some insistent cajoling from my friends, I agreed to take them to a KTV in Quezon Avenue. My usual GRM greeted me—emphatically, I have to say—and gleefully pecked me on the cheek. It’s been a long time, she said.

My friends picked their companions for the night. I, as always, took my time. I asked if there were any more in the back. The GRM pursed her lips and replied that it was unfortunate that most girls are already taken. I eyed a girl in the corner, head down, looking bored. She was a little chubby and her black flowing dress did not make her look any slimmer, but she had a nice face with deep, black eyes, and a clear complexion. Her name was Angel, said the GRM. And she was “game.”

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This is the month where people start mulling over where to spend their Christmas bonus on. I know a number of people are just yearning to splurge on a “personal service provider” that they would normally be unable to afford. I have talked to some people who are now planning a wild night at a KTV or a raunchy tryst with a high-class escort. I truly hope that these people have their priorities straight.

A bonus is a once-in-a-year thing; a romp with a PSP is about three hours, sometimes overnight.

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And no, I don’t mean French kissing. A lot of people ask what to talk about with a GRO in a KTV. I guess they are concerned about how to break the ice, or how to keep the conversation lively, or how to keep the GRO interested. Should they talk about work? Family life? Sex? Movies? What topics should be avoided? And what happens if the conversation becomes stale?

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KTV experiences can end up as an exorbitant expense. Unlike massage parlors and escort experiences, both of which have fixed price schemes and pre-determined duration, KTVs have the potential to spiral out of control. The ingredients are there—a sexy woman, alcohol, and a credit card. So, if you want to keep your expenses in check and ensure you don’t go down the wild path, here are some things to consider so you can make the most of your budget and ensure more fun-filled repeat visits.

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