When Katrina Halili tearfully decries that she was “treated like a pig”—binaboy, as she claimed—I wonder exactly at what point did she consider herself “swined.” She was obviously with Hayden with full knowledge of what will transpire. There was no ripping of clothing. There was no struggle. There was no resistance. I am not saying that I 100% condone with what Hayden Kho, but what exactly are we rallying against here?

The lawyer of Hayden Kho raised a good point. We should separate three things: the sex itself, the act of video-taping the sex act, and the act of distributing the video.

First, I have no doubt that the participants in the video were enjoying themselves. There was lots of moaning and groaning. There was no sign of resistance. Heck, there was a scene where the woman herself was unwrapping the condom herself impaling herself with the man’s joystick. And the way she was grinding her hips, the way the bed rocked and creaked, there is no doubt that she was wild and wanton with desire.

Now before the conservatives out there throw their potshots at me (I doubt though if there are conservatives reading this post, anyway), what’s wrong with enjoying sex? Yes it can be described as “sacred” and “intimate” and “private,” but it is also damn pleasurable. Their sex act is actually quite “mainstream.” There was no BDSM, no weird out-of-this-world fetish.

Next, it can be debatable that none of these women knew that they were being video-taped, especially if the the camera was in full view. And this leads me to my next question: What is wrong with video-taping a sex act?

I noticed that women who have no qualms watching an x-rated film have similarly no qualms in having themselves video-taped. I suppose that when watching a commercial x-rated sex film, they have a conscious or subconscious desire to see themselves in that video. So seeing themselves in an actual sex video is just carrying that desire to the next logical step. But few user-generated sex videos are meant for public consumption. As I wrote in my site, mutual consent is important as well as the efforts to ensure that the video remains private. I admit as well that I have a number of videos with me and my partners. We do enjoy watching it together. It is our very own x-rated porn movie. And it makes our sex more enjoyable. But I extend every effort to keep it private. My videos do not reside in memory cards or in mobile phones. They are stored in password-protected, encrypted files with discreet file names.

But I know some don’t bother to ask permission. Their stance is probably this: “what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her.” So they don’t bother to tell that there is a video camera lurking around somewhere. I really don’t blame the guy for taking this stance in the same way that I don’t blame the gal for not telling her parents, friends, or boyfriend that she is out impaling herself with someone’s man-tool.

But the unauthorized distribution of the material is where I now draw the line. What is private has now become public. But does it deserve the attention that it is getting? If you strip away all the moralistic saber-rattling, it all boils down to invasion of privacy. It is embarrassing, yes, but did we really expect the sexy starlet to be a virgin?

People are now quick to label Hayden as a sex addict. I could label him as a coward for not bothering to ask permission or label him as reckless for having the balls to video-tape the sex act without permission; but at best I would label him as just careless.

Twitter, the micro-blogging platform that is popular in the technology blogosphere, is now gaining mainstream attention. Barack Obama is on Twitter. So are pop figures like Brittney Spears, Demi Moore, and Ashton Kutcher. I have spotted notable Filipino personalities in Twitter like Mike Abundo (follow) and Manuel L Quezon III (follow).

Twitter is straight-forward. Registration does not need any personal or confidential information. Registration just requires an email address. Once you are setup, you can send any message (up to 140 characters), which are called “tweets,” which will be visible to everyone. If you “follow” someone, then that someone’s tweets will be visible in your homepage. Think of Twitter as a chat room for the world. And Filipinos love those “chat boxes” in forums. With Twitter, the entire internet is your chat box.

But what does this mean for the adult entertainment scene? What does this mean to PSPs or the their customers?

Unlike Facebook or Friendster, which seem to be geared in establishing contacts with friends and colleagues, Twitter is now shaping up to be the tool for networking. And PSPs also need to “network.” How else will they get their clients?

A PSP can “tweet” her availability. And if she has “followers” (who are potential clients), they will immediately know and can contact her. If she has a mobile phone, the PSP can also tweet using SMS or, if she can access the internet through Wi-fi or 3G, can also tweet using a mobile web browser. She can tweet her whereabouts, whether she is in trouble, or, for the kinky, whatever is going on inside the motel room.

If you are still wondering what you can do with Twitter, simply Google “Twitter.” I found some useful tips like this and this.

I, for one, would like to see more and more PSPs in Twitter. It would be interesting to find out what they do in their spare time, what their interests are, if they are free, if they are in need, if they are in trouble. Forums are, in my opinion, passe and subject to the whims of the administrators. Why create personas in different forums when you can be contacted with one persona in Twitter?

For those willing to try, you can follow me at Twitter.